Flakes and Friends

Sometimes you go in "hibernation mode"... Why you ask? Because you have been "flaked on" so many times that you're "snowed-in" and it makes you not want to go out anymore.

Flakes are a reason why I don't trust people's word anymore, they are a reason why I lost my faith in people. Nobody does what they say anymore, and it's sad. People have lost their integrity. I learned not to take what people say seriously anymore... Now I have a "prove me wrong" type of attitude, which is sad. I became cynical... There was a time I became cynical and angry. But through experiences, I have learned... Sometimes you just have to take what you can get. Take all the good you can, because bad things are what you make it.

People can be flaky... when there's a snow storm, you don't want to go out.... but you know what? When the weather is nice, the flakes go away...I like to call these "fair weather friends"... and you know what?.. They're okay, even better than okay. Fair weather friends are still friends, and that's the bottom line. They may flake, make empty promises, and only show up at certain times, but they are still friends that do come out to play. It's better than playing with no one, right?

The trick is... don't get you're hopes up. Every day is not going to be a sunny one. Sometimes the weather shows a promising day full of sun shine, and instead you get rain. The weather is fickle; just like people... It sounds really grim to say, but it's true. Then somewhere along your journey, you come across people that keep their promises and even show up in the rain. Those people don't come across very often; just like rainbows ;) They are a special treat when it rains, and show that despite the rain, some sun can shine through and show a little color... Good friends are like that. When you're not at your best or are feeling kind of down, they have ways to be there for you and brighten your day. You can count on them and just like fair weather friends, they may not always be there, but they make you feel good to go out. Bottom line: Friends are friends.. appreciate all of them and just know which ones you can count on.

Btw, disclaimer: Flakes are not people that can't make it... Flakes are the ones who give empty promises and say they will, but don't show up, or fall out last minute. To avoid being flaky, give the truth, if you can't make it, you can't make it. Or if you have a feeling you're not going to make it, give a heads up. Don't get people's hopes up, then not follow through.. Common courtesy. In other words, "don't blow smoke up people's ass". Be genuine, honest, and real. Have some integrity. People will appreciate you for it.